My relationship with my spouse was 40 years old in July 2023! I would like to share 7 tips from my experience that will enable anyone to enjoy a long loving mutually blessed relationship in marriage, families, friendship and with people in general whom you wish to become close with. There are 7 things:
Let me take it up one by one. Remember, I am writing from my own personal experience as a married christian woman but it will apply to everyone.
You have to purpose it in your mind on a daily basis to be a person of peace when offence comes your way. Offence will come in a number of ways in and outside your home, around your personal space, in the midst of family, friends, colleagues, neighbours and relatives. The way you handle the situation can either create conflict or peace. Remember that it takes two people to quarrel. It requires you to deliberately and consciously be a peacemaker no matter the offence, who brings it and why. You can not do this without your asking for help from God. He will help you through His Holy Spirit. There have been occasion when my spouse, family member, a close friend or a colleague have offended me with the marner they spoke to me or sometimes it could be their taking advantage over me. I don't retaliate, lose my cool, have the last say or argue. I ensure I speak calmly conscious of being a peacemaker. I may withdraw or just remain silent. Most times, the other party will apologise first. Make being a peacemaker part of your daily prayer until , like me, it will become your second nature. It becomes part of you to be a person of peace.
Next post, I will be talking about the second tip - respect.